kvanlaan
Puritan Board Doctor
OK, I want to pick the brains of those among you who are older and wiser on this topic (or even just wiser).
We have a 9 year old daughter (Esther) who is everything that the world loves. She's tall, brilliant, and beautiful. (I can very comfortably claim all these things because she's also adopted, and I had nothing to do with these qualities of hers!)
The thing is that she is also very ambitious. I sometimes wonder if a traditional role will be enough for her. Though we are constantly expounding on the wonders of motherhood and having a family (and she has indeed told us that she wants nothing more than to be a mother to her children and a wife to her husband before God) she is a prime candidate for falling off the wagon and into the open arms of secular society. We already have people just walk up to us and tell us how beautiful she is (which, by the way, kinda creeps me out) and I have a feeling it will just get worse as she matures.
We try to stress modesty in clothing and behavior and don't have a TV (which helps a lot!) But are concerned that when we head back to N. America (in a couple of years), the exposure to what is going on there will tip the scales if we are not careful. We want to keep the kids (but especially her) on the straight and narrow but are wondering how to go about it. We have a couple more years to seriously ingrain this in her and want to make the most of what we've got - please advise!
We have a 9 year old daughter (Esther) who is everything that the world loves. She's tall, brilliant, and beautiful. (I can very comfortably claim all these things because she's also adopted, and I had nothing to do with these qualities of hers!)
The thing is that she is also very ambitious. I sometimes wonder if a traditional role will be enough for her. Though we are constantly expounding on the wonders of motherhood and having a family (and she has indeed told us that she wants nothing more than to be a mother to her children and a wife to her husband before God) she is a prime candidate for falling off the wagon and into the open arms of secular society. We already have people just walk up to us and tell us how beautiful she is (which, by the way, kinda creeps me out) and I have a feeling it will just get worse as she matures.
We try to stress modesty in clothing and behavior and don't have a TV (which helps a lot!) But are concerned that when we head back to N. America (in a couple of years), the exposure to what is going on there will tip the scales if we are not careful. We want to keep the kids (but especially her) on the straight and narrow but are wondering how to go about it. We have a couple more years to seriously ingrain this in her and want to make the most of what we've got - please advise!