Puritan Board Freshman
I think this is a very good point.A lot of the things being discussed here- purity culture, dress- are symptoms of the church's move away from Biblical teaching on the distinctions which should be maintained between the sexes, on holiness, on sancitification. The purity culture was itself, ironically, obsessed with sex. It seemed to view the Christian life as a great battle specifically between sexual promiscuity and sexual abstinence, emphaising sex way beyond its proper proportion. Which only results in sexualising the culture of the church from the other direction. And, if reports on the sexual behaviour of "evangelical" teens were to be believed, certainly didnt result in keeping young people pure.
It's actually quite similar to some of the arguments Aimee makes in her book. She is concerned that we often make sexual relationships the ultimate form of relationship and therefore downplay friendship. And so the only meaningful friendship men and women can have is sexual.
Therefore a lot of the book is concerned with building a case for the positive ways in which Christian men and women's platonic friendships can and should benefit them.
Of course there is a need for wisdom, and practical application is where it gets controversial, but I think it's easy to miss the more interesting points she makes.
I don't think that relationships with the opposite sex can certainly function the same way, or that wisdom is not necessary, but I think we should be able to critique some negative aspects of purity culture (focus on sex, legalism) while taking some of the positive parts.
I think Aimee is trying to build a Christian view of male/female relationships without making everything about sex which she thinks both the world and purity culture do.
Now she may be incorrect or unwise in some of her ideas or advice, but I think what she is trying to do is commendable, and I don't think it can just be reduced to her being a undercover feminist.