Piano Hero
Puritan Board Sophomore
Hello!
I'm sorry if this isn't the right forum, of course the mods with their mod power can move it if there's a better option.
Just as a warning, this will be a long post.
My husband and I have been off and on attending two churches for the past few years. When I was single, I attended and became a member of a church separate from my parents, and so for awhile when my husband and I were first married (about 3 years ago), we attended that church. But in the past two years or so, we've gone to both "my" church in the morning (11am), and then my parents' church in the afternoon (2:30pm). Now, we have a nine month old boy, and we go to whichever church works with how his naps are doing that day.
Some potentially pertinent info:
1) My husband and I are Reformed Baptists. The church we are members of is nondenominational, but they are essentially Reformed Baptists. My parents' church is also nondenominational, but branched out of a PCA church, and about half the members hold a paedobaptist belief.
2) The church we are members of has roughly 300 members, while my parents' church has around 30 at most. My parents' church was born out of a terrible church split, and while it was a disheartening, sad experience, all the members of the smaller church have grown very close. It's a long and tragic story that I won't go into, but I don't think I could ever be as close to these people as to anyone at another church. My husband and I feel very comfortable there, while we're still not "plugged in" (I hate that term but that's all I got) at the larger church, after two years of attendance. Small groups don't really work at this stage in our life, with the baby, and both my husband and I are terribly introverted (something we're working to overcome), so it's a struggle to talk to the person in the next pew.
3) One (minor) reason that we like to attend my parents' church, aside from the solid, Biblical preaching, is that it gives my parents an opportunity to see their grandson, as they live an hour away and it's hard to see him during the week.
So I guess my questions are:
A) Is it wrong to divide our time between two churches? Being a member of a certain church, should we be entirely committed to that one?
B) When two churches are Biblically solid (to my judgment), how nit picky do you get to chose the "right" one? There is the old phrase about "if you find the perfect church, there's something wrong with it", but if we do need to pick on, there has to be some qualifiers.
I'm sorry if this isn't the right forum, of course the mods with their mod power can move it if there's a better option.
Just as a warning, this will be a long post. My husband and I have been off and on attending two churches for the past few years. When I was single, I attended and became a member of a church separate from my parents, and so for awhile when my husband and I were first married (about 3 years ago), we attended that church. But in the past two years or so, we've gone to both "my" church in the morning (11am), and then my parents' church in the afternoon (2:30pm). Now, we have a nine month old boy, and we go to whichever church works with how his naps are doing that day.
Some potentially pertinent info:
1) My husband and I are Reformed Baptists. The church we are members of is nondenominational, but they are essentially Reformed Baptists. My parents' church is also nondenominational, but branched out of a PCA church, and about half the members hold a paedobaptist belief.
2) The church we are members of has roughly 300 members, while my parents' church has around 30 at most. My parents' church was born out of a terrible church split, and while it was a disheartening, sad experience, all the members of the smaller church have grown very close. It's a long and tragic story that I won't go into, but I don't think I could ever be as close to these people as to anyone at another church. My husband and I feel very comfortable there, while we're still not "plugged in" (I hate that term but that's all I got) at the larger church, after two years of attendance. Small groups don't really work at this stage in our life, with the baby, and both my husband and I are terribly introverted (something we're working to overcome), so it's a struggle to talk to the person in the next pew.
3) One (minor) reason that we like to attend my parents' church, aside from the solid, Biblical preaching, is that it gives my parents an opportunity to see their grandson, as they live an hour away and it's hard to see him during the week.
So I guess my questions are:
A) Is it wrong to divide our time between two churches? Being a member of a certain church, should we be entirely committed to that one?
B) When two churches are Biblically solid (to my judgment), how nit picky do you get to chose the "right" one? There is the old phrase about "if you find the perfect church, there's something wrong with it", but if we do need to pick on, there has to be some qualifiers.
