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Puritan Board Freshman
One of the university students in the church has met a member of the opposite sex (also a Christian) and the two are very interested in developing their relationship. However, the parents are against their relationship. Reason: both parents in the church are Chinese and the other person is a white Australian. The parents have said that they believe their child should marry a Chinese and not a white person. How would you counsel 1) the young couple to be and 2) the Chinese parents? Interested to know what your views are.


Puritan Board Sophomore
The university student and their Chinese parents are members of your church? Is the student male or female? And the Australian is not a member of your church?

I would say respect the parent's views and counsel the Australian to get to know them if they are interested in their child. Have them read cultural books on the Chinese - what is rude, polite, good faith gestures, etc. I read this a while back and thought it was very good. There's a Kindle version.

Counsel the parents that Christians are one in Christ regardless of nationality (Gal. 3:28).

Regardless, pursuing a relationship where the parents disapprove will more than likely end badly.
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