Divorce and remarriage

[Sydnorphyn]

The situation:

Friend: wife in an adulterous relationship for five years, friend finds out, willing to forgive and reconcile, wife wants out - can friend remarry?

John

 

[Puritan Sailor]

1 Cor. 7 says your freind is free under the circumstances you described. So yes, he can remarry. But before he remarries, he should examine himself and work on whatever faults may have contributed to the downfall of the marriage. I'm not saying it's all his fault, but it is a very rare case where only one party is to blame for the whole marriage failure. Before he marries again, he needs to have those things worked out.

 

[2 Tim 4:2]

Regardless of the faults of the spouse there is no excuse or reason for adultery. Others do not contribute to my disobedience toward God. Psalm 51

 

[bookslover]

1 Cor. 7 says your freind is free under the circumstances you described.

 

[MW]

Friend: wife in an adulterous relationship for five years, friend finds out, willing to forgive and reconcile, wife wants out - can friend remarry?

He would be permitted to remarry after the divorce has taken place; but I don't think it is wise to dwell upon the option whilst there is still a resolve in his mind to reconcile.

 

[KatieF2]

Any man who divorces his wife and marrys another commits adultery and should be taken out the back and stoned!
Oh wait a minute, we don't do that anymore do we?

Is this guy truly repentant after 5 years of unfaithfulness?

 

[KatieF2]

Oops,
Not an auspicious start!
Got him and her mixed up!
Sorry!

 

[Herald]

John - I concur with Puritan Sailor. Marriage is permissible but I would counsel the husband to take stock of his own condition and proceed circumspectly.

 

[Blueridge Believer]

Westminster Confession, with which I certainly agree:

Chapter XXIV

Of Marriage and Divorce

I. Marriage is to be between one man and one woman: neither is it lawful for any man to have more than one wife, nor for any woman to have more than one husband, at the same time.[1]

II. Marriage was ordained for the mutual help of husband and wife,[2] for the increase of mankind with a legitimate issue, and of the Church with an holy seed;[3] and for preventing of uncleanness.[4]

III. It is lawful for all sorts of people to marry, who are able with judgment to give their consent.[5] Yet it is the duty of Christians to marry only in the Lord.[6] And therefore such as profess the true reformed religion should not marry with infidels, papists, or other idolaters: neither should such as are godly be unequally yoked, by marrying with such as are notoriously wicked in their life, or maintain damnable heresies.[7]

IV. Marriage ought not to be within the degrees of consanguinity or affinity forbidden by the Word.[8] Nor can such incestuous marriages ever be made lawful by any law of man or consent of parties, so as those persons may live together as man and wife.[9] The man may not marry any of his wife's kindred, nearer in blood then he may of his own: nor the woman of her husband's kindred, nearer in blood than of her own.[10]

V. Adultery or fornication committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, gives just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract.[11] In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce and, after the divorce,[12] to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.[13]

VI. Although the corruption of man be such as is apt to study arguments unduly to put asunder those whom God has joined together in marriage: yet, nothing but adultery, or such wilful desertion as can no way be remedied by the Church, or civil magistrate, is cause sufficient of dissolving the bond of marriage:[14] wherein, a public and orderly course of proceeding is to be observed; and the persons concerned in it not left to their own wills, and discretion, in their own case.[15]