Looking for a little bit of biblically-based input.
My wife and I have been married for under a year and she agreed to move to where I could financially support a household. Her family is about five hours away and she gets pretty homesick. We have been working on being together as much as we can when we do go for weekend visits there and agree to be together for church, but occasionally we agree that she can spend a week with them as I return home to work.
Our pastor informs us that this does not meet God's design for both parties to leave and cleave as in Gen 2:24 and she should not be going over to visit without me.
Is there room for a wife to visit family in the absence of her husband and yet remain obedient to God's principles for marriage?
Thoughts, comments, scriptural references, or resources would be appreciated.
For clarity sake:
-We are attending the same church I had been before getting married
-We attend a reformed, 1689 LBC confessing church that holds to the Five Solas
-This same pastor and his wife had provided in-depth pre-marriage counseling during our courtship and engagement period.
-My wife and I are spending on average six to eight weeks together then we agree that she may go and visit for about five days
-Her parents support me as head of my home and do not try to usurp leadership from me
-It is not a situation of her trying to get away from me and we both love being together and she feels cared for provided for by me when she leaves to visit because I don't guilt her for leaving for a while.
My wife and I have been married for under a year and she agreed to move to where I could financially support a household. Her family is about five hours away and she gets pretty homesick. We have been working on being together as much as we can when we do go for weekend visits there and agree to be together for church, but occasionally we agree that she can spend a week with them as I return home to work.
Our pastor informs us that this does not meet God's design for both parties to leave and cleave as in Gen 2:24 and she should not be going over to visit without me.
Is there room for a wife to visit family in the absence of her husband and yet remain obedient to God's principles for marriage?
Thoughts, comments, scriptural references, or resources would be appreciated.
For clarity sake:
-We are attending the same church I had been before getting married
-We attend a reformed, 1689 LBC confessing church that holds to the Five Solas
-This same pastor and his wife had provided in-depth pre-marriage counseling during our courtship and engagement period.
-My wife and I are spending on average six to eight weeks together then we agree that she may go and visit for about five days
-Her parents support me as head of my home and do not try to usurp leadership from me
-It is not a situation of her trying to get away from me and we both love being together and she feels cared for provided for by me when she leaves to visit because I don't guilt her for leaving for a while.
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