Scott1
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....keeping of chaste company, modesty in apparel...
Scott, Is any woman, simply by virtue of being a woman, considered unchaste company? Proverbs is full of warnings to stay away from the "strange woman" (Ch 5), the "whorish woman" (Ch 6) etc. It doesn't say stay away from any woman. Likewise, modest apparel may be a big issue today, but not all women dress that way.
The passages from the Westminster Larger Catechism summarize the doctrine of Scripture with regard to the broad application of the seventh commandment.
They are examples of how broadly it applies to thought, word and deed (like all ten commandments).
Some that would possibly apply to the original post were highlighted. They would not apply in every case. The original post gives a certain fact pattern, without great detail, but illustrates the temptations and difficulties that can occur.
There are many situations in the world. For example, in our generation, there are many who are or have lived in serial sexually immoral relationships- a lifestyle pattern. They don't come to the table necessarily with the same commitment that a married person does, or that a believer does.
Add to that, in our generation, in the United States at least, the common grace that provided strong civil protection of marriage contract has weakened, and is being confused, to the misery and detriment of many.
And, in our day, as in the Apostle's, there often is no consciousness of modesty.
Having heard the real-life testimonies of people who have struggled or are struggling with this, we must acknowledge, as the Scripture does, that this is a structural problem.
A married person (as in the original post) with an eligible member of the opposite gender, who they might find attractive, alone and unaccountable. To believe that will be antiseptically neutral, that the power inherent withing the business relationship cannot create undue temptation- based on the huge struggles being faced in our time with this, cannot be ignored.
I wish it were not so.
He is strong, but we are weak.
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Alex,
We might add that what your argumentation is missing is the understanding of the profound effects of the Fall.
"Common sense" does not always rule us, and can be clouded by our own sin.
We are capable of self-deception.
We cannot even know a situation well enough (or control a situation) to even apply it in some situations.
Consider what the Scripture teaches about the depth of our sin, and our ability to be self-deceived.
No wonder the Psalmist cried out for God to search him.
Psalm 139
1O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.
5Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.
6Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it.
7Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence?
8If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.
9If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea;
10Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.
11If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me.
12Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee.
13For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother's womb.
14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
17How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
18If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.
19Surely thou wilt slay the wicked, O God: depart from me therefore, ye bloody men.
20For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in vain.
21Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee?
22I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies.
23Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
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