Hi all,
I'm a sometimes-lurker of the forums here, and I wanted to get some advice on my situation. In short, we've been seriously considering moving from our relatively populated area out into the country, but the number of variables are too many to figure out. It's complicated, and here goes...
Currently:
-I'm in my 30s with a wife and two kids under 3 (and we're hoping to have 4-5 kids in total).
-We live on the east coast on the outskirts of a capital city, and attend an incredible OPC church. However, we are a 35 minute drive from the church, and the majority of people our age live in the *other* direction, making it hard to get together and fellowship regularly.
-Our state is quite purple, aka middle of the road politically.
-Our best friends are my parents who currently live 10 minutes away. They have said they would follow us if we were to relocate.
-I'm self-employed and work is all electronic, so we can live wherever we want to, as long as we have high speed internet.
Our reasons for wanting to move:
-We would like to raise our kids in the country. I grew up in the country, and think it's a great place to raise kids.
-We would like to have more land. We feel somewhat cramped here in our suburb, and would just love to be surrounded by more nature and isolation. I'd like to stand on my front porch and not see any neighbors - let alone my back porch!
-We have something of a prepper-lite mindset, and don't like the idea of being close to a big city. We'd like to become more self-sufficient and my wife is keen on having a homestead of sorts.
-We'd like to live closer to whatever church we are attending. Our current church is in the middle of the capital, and I've looked numerous times into moving closer - getting a comparable house to what we have now is literally 2x as expensive or more. Meanwhile, moving to the country, the same house is 1/2 as expensive, with more land. If we decide to not move, we will *have* to move closer to our church, but it will be hard to make it work.
-Lower cost of living. With my work situation, there's really no reason to live so close to a big city, where costs are higher.
-We'd like to move to a much more conservative state, one with better homeschooling and gun laws. Hopefully this will result in being surrounded by people who are *more* like-minded (knowing that fully like-minded people may be few and far between no matter where you go).
-We are long-term thinkers, and want to position ourselves and our posterity well for whatever may come in the future.
So let's say the wise choice is to move. But where? Since with my job I can live anywhere, and my parents will follow us (so they say at least), it makes it extremely difficult to figure out. I've spent hours and hours pouring through house listings and cross-referencing with nearby churches and other variables, compiling tables with statistics for prospective states...
Should we try to start by picking a church, then finding a nearby home? Let's say we pick church X as being a great church we want to attend, then we find home Y nearby. The issue that occurs, is that in most cases, church X is the *only* church that seems good in that area, so we'd be really putting all of our eggs in one basket...what if the church turns out to not be so great? And if we don't start by picking a church, and instead pick a home - it's *very* possible that we end up with a home that is farther from a good church than where we are now! So ideally, we want a home that could house 6 people, on 5+ acres, within 15 minutes of multiple good reformed churches. Ha!
The amount of information and number of variables is overwhelming. Any advice or thoughts much appreciated!
I'm a sometimes-lurker of the forums here, and I wanted to get some advice on my situation. In short, we've been seriously considering moving from our relatively populated area out into the country, but the number of variables are too many to figure out. It's complicated, and here goes...
Currently:
-I'm in my 30s with a wife and two kids under 3 (and we're hoping to have 4-5 kids in total).
-We live on the east coast on the outskirts of a capital city, and attend an incredible OPC church. However, we are a 35 minute drive from the church, and the majority of people our age live in the *other* direction, making it hard to get together and fellowship regularly.
-Our state is quite purple, aka middle of the road politically.
-Our best friends are my parents who currently live 10 minutes away. They have said they would follow us if we were to relocate.
-I'm self-employed and work is all electronic, so we can live wherever we want to, as long as we have high speed internet.
Our reasons for wanting to move:
-We would like to raise our kids in the country. I grew up in the country, and think it's a great place to raise kids.
-We would like to have more land. We feel somewhat cramped here in our suburb, and would just love to be surrounded by more nature and isolation. I'd like to stand on my front porch and not see any neighbors - let alone my back porch!
-We have something of a prepper-lite mindset, and don't like the idea of being close to a big city. We'd like to become more self-sufficient and my wife is keen on having a homestead of sorts.
-We'd like to live closer to whatever church we are attending. Our current church is in the middle of the capital, and I've looked numerous times into moving closer - getting a comparable house to what we have now is literally 2x as expensive or more. Meanwhile, moving to the country, the same house is 1/2 as expensive, with more land. If we decide to not move, we will *have* to move closer to our church, but it will be hard to make it work.
-Lower cost of living. With my work situation, there's really no reason to live so close to a big city, where costs are higher.
-We'd like to move to a much more conservative state, one with better homeschooling and gun laws. Hopefully this will result in being surrounded by people who are *more* like-minded (knowing that fully like-minded people may be few and far between no matter where you go).
-We are long-term thinkers, and want to position ourselves and our posterity well for whatever may come in the future.
So let's say the wise choice is to move. But where? Since with my job I can live anywhere, and my parents will follow us (so they say at least), it makes it extremely difficult to figure out. I've spent hours and hours pouring through house listings and cross-referencing with nearby churches and other variables, compiling tables with statistics for prospective states...
Should we try to start by picking a church, then finding a nearby home? Let's say we pick church X as being a great church we want to attend, then we find home Y nearby. The issue that occurs, is that in most cases, church X is the *only* church that seems good in that area, so we'd be really putting all of our eggs in one basket...what if the church turns out to not be so great? And if we don't start by picking a church, and instead pick a home - it's *very* possible that we end up with a home that is farther from a good church than where we are now! So ideally, we want a home that could house 6 people, on 5+ acres, within 15 minutes of multiple good reformed churches. Ha!
The amount of information and number of variables is overwhelming. Any advice or thoughts much appreciated!