Hello folks! There is a question which my wife and I have been discussing for years since a wedding in the family, and I would be interested in your insight. The event was a wedding in which one of the two families was against having a "cash bar" and the other was for said bar. The family that was set against the cash bar had considered Romans 14:13-19 as follows:
Do Not Cause Another to Stumble
13 Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. 14 I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean. 15 For if your brother is grieved by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. By what you eat, do not destroy the one for whom Christ died. 16 So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil.17 For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. 19 So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.
...and determined that there should be no alcohol at the wedding, because it was possible that a relative would be in attendance who was said to be an alcoholic. According to family members, he had claimed to completely abstain from alcohol for a period of many years, but the family did not want to put a "stumbling block" in his way, following their interpretation of the passage above.
Do you folks care to share any thoughts on the above passage from Romans 14 sheds light on the situation, or how it doesn't apply in this particular way? We have our own (differing) ideas on the matter, but we are interested in any insight you have to provide.
Thanks,
Mike
Do Not Cause Another to Stumble
13 Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. 14 I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself, but it is unclean for anyone who thinks it unclean. 15 For if your brother is grieved by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. By what you eat, do not destroy the one for whom Christ died. 16 So do not let what you regard as good be spoken of as evil.17 For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 Whoever thus serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. 19 So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.
...and determined that there should be no alcohol at the wedding, because it was possible that a relative would be in attendance who was said to be an alcoholic. According to family members, he had claimed to completely abstain from alcohol for a period of many years, but the family did not want to put a "stumbling block" in his way, following their interpretation of the passage above.
Do you folks care to share any thoughts on the above passage from Romans 14 sheds light on the situation, or how it doesn't apply in this particular way? We have our own (differing) ideas on the matter, but we are interested in any insight you have to provide.
Thanks,
Mike