Blueridge Believer
Puritan Board Professor
My question is "Is it ok to be married and not have sex?"
No
adultery has been committed and there are certainly grounds for biblical divorce.
"A wife may not leave her husband (I Cor. 7:10), or the husband, his wife — not even if the mate is an unbeliever (I Cor. 7:12ff.). Marriage is communion: the two must live together. Not only must they live together under one roof, but they must live together sexually: "Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence (literally, 'the debt'): and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other..." (I Cor. 7:3-5)." - Prof Engelsma
http://www.prca.org/pamphlets/pamphlet_15.html
http://www.prca.org/pamphlets/pamphlet_78.html
http://www.prca.org/current/Marriage/Marriage--cover.htm
I have the greatest respect for prof. Englesma, however, when it comes to this issue he has bound a burden grevious to be born on people and is guilty of teaching error in his zeal to keep marriage holy and sanctified. If one goes out side the clear teaching of the scripture and takes the R.C.C. postion on this issue they are guilty of legalism.