AnnaBanana
Puritan Board Freshman
As the title says, I am slightly embarrassed to talk about this, which I don't truly no why. I am guessing it is because the world tells us we need to follow a specific plan (which I do NOT follow but still sometimes the pressure will creep it's way in) you know - engaged, married, kids...
Well, I'm neither of those. I was once, but it didn't work out and looking back I can see exactly why the Lord allowed me to go through it. I grew, and learned, and was able to fall deeply in love with Him.
I do desire to become a wife. I pray for the man the Lord has planned for me that in this season of singleness for both of us, that we would flourish in our relationship in the Lord so that when we come together we would be a couple that would represent the Church and Christ.
But... what if that isn't for me? What if I have this desire, but the Lord chooses otherwise. I understand that it may NOT be for me and I will admit through clenched teeth, that I am okay with that. I am okay with seeing some of my friends with the man they love and creating a family of their own. Do I some days wish I had someone to come home to after work and join me in my Bible reading and netflix parties? Sure. But, then there are days where I am truly thankful that I can spend all my time with the Lord and truly cherish my relationship with him.
So question number 1: How did you/are you deal with singleness?
Here is my other question, and it may be silly to most but I am truly seeking clarification:
Why does God in Genesis say:
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." Genesis 2:18
and
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the LORD.
but then Paul says
1 Corinthians 7:8
Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am.
and
1 Corinthians 7:1
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
Well, I'm neither of those. I was once, but it didn't work out and looking back I can see exactly why the Lord allowed me to go through it. I grew, and learned, and was able to fall deeply in love with Him.
I do desire to become a wife. I pray for the man the Lord has planned for me that in this season of singleness for both of us, that we would flourish in our relationship in the Lord so that when we come together we would be a couple that would represent the Church and Christ.
But... what if that isn't for me? What if I have this desire, but the Lord chooses otherwise. I understand that it may NOT be for me and I will admit through clenched teeth, that I am okay with that. I am okay with seeing some of my friends with the man they love and creating a family of their own. Do I some days wish I had someone to come home to after work and join me in my Bible reading and netflix parties? Sure. But, then there are days where I am truly thankful that I can spend all my time with the Lord and truly cherish my relationship with him.
So question number 1: How did you/are you deal with singleness?
Here is my other question, and it may be silly to most but I am truly seeking clarification:
Why does God in Genesis say:
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him." Genesis 2:18
and
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the LORD.
but then Paul says
1 Corinthians 7:8
Now to the unmarried and widows I say this: It is good for them to remain unmarried, as I am.
and
1 Corinthians 7:1
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”