The Perfectionist

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Scott

Puritan Board Graduate
Does anyone have any advice or suggested resources that discuss parenting a perfectionist child? I am not talking about just in spiritual matters, but in everything.

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Scott

Puritan Board Graduate
Yeah, there is no OCD. I have seen profiles of first-borns and perfectionists and that is what I am talking about.

[Edited on 11-29-2005 by Scott]
 

Puddleglum

Puritan Board Sophomore
Well, you could ask my parents! :) (I'm a first-born, and sometimes fit the stereotype a little bit too well . . . )

This might not relate so much to parenting . . . but one thing someone told me recently has helped me personally - the desire for perfection isn't intrinsically wrong (considering that God has given us a desire for heaven and for righteousness). That doesn't mean we can't mess it up - but it helps to realize that the basic desire isn't wrong, it's how I go looking for it that can get me in the wrong place (trying to have that perfection here and now, doing it my way in my strength).
 

Mrs.SolaFide

Puritan Board Freshman
I agree with Jessica. As a fellow first-born perfectionist, I was (and srill struggle with being) driven by fear of man and people pleasing. The perfectionist child sees the smallest mistakes & missteps as the end of the world and a complete and total failure to live up to the impossibly high standards they set for themselves. I would continually remind your child that their self worth comes from nothing they do or don't do - that the Scriptures are our standard, that only in Christ do we have real worth, and that He truly WAS perfect because we can never be.

Point in case, I just edited this post because I realized I left out the word "to" in my 3rd sentence. I tried to let it go - but I couldn't!!!

[Edited on 11-29-2005 by MissSolaFide]
 
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