tdowns
Puritan Board Junior
A new study is out, basically saying a new stage in life has emerged since the 70's and flourishing today, they say it's permanent, and I think they are calling it The twixter phase of life. Basically (if anyone has time I'm sure the article is on the net) it is the phase after college when many people float about enjoying their freedom till about 30 before marrying, having kids, and getting their career started.
I post this because, once I became a Christian, I realized I needed a relationship with a woman, and it needed to be inside of marriage. I quickly found my wife and got married. I was 26 at the time.
This post is to discuss three aspects:
1. the dynamics of knowing marital relations should be confined to marriage..
2. knowing through science that marital relations are healthy inside the confines of marriage (studies show men who abstain have higher risk of prostate cancer, etc)
3. our culture has pushed back marrying age from biblical (13-20) to 25-35.
What I find interesting is, our culture has pushed back marriage so far, that it becomes really difficult for a young person to imagine "waiting" for marriage before they experience the "joys" of marriage.
I have a sixteen year old daughter who talks of waiting till 26-28 to get married, I tell her, if you have a Christian boy friend, don't wait, through counsel, get your life started together, so you can enjoy the fruits of youth.
This seems to me the only good advice to our youth, unless they are called to abstinence. God made marriage, and all the joys it physically entails, to begin much earlier than our culture demands. The human body kicks in to procreation stage easily by 14-16 (which is the age they married in biblical times) yet the normal person marries at 26-30. Well of course the God given desires of our bodies are going to be frustrated if there put in check for 10-15 years.
Maybe this should be in Men's, but, if we can keep it clean, I think it's edifying for women and youth to discuss this as well.
TDRevolver
[Edited on 20-1-2005 by tdowns007]
I post this because, once I became a Christian, I realized I needed a relationship with a woman, and it needed to be inside of marriage. I quickly found my wife and got married. I was 26 at the time.
This post is to discuss three aspects:
1. the dynamics of knowing marital relations should be confined to marriage..
2. knowing through science that marital relations are healthy inside the confines of marriage (studies show men who abstain have higher risk of prostate cancer, etc)
3. our culture has pushed back marrying age from biblical (13-20) to 25-35.
What I find interesting is, our culture has pushed back marriage so far, that it becomes really difficult for a young person to imagine "waiting" for marriage before they experience the "joys" of marriage.
I have a sixteen year old daughter who talks of waiting till 26-28 to get married, I tell her, if you have a Christian boy friend, don't wait, through counsel, get your life started together, so you can enjoy the fruits of youth.
This seems to me the only good advice to our youth, unless they are called to abstinence. God made marriage, and all the joys it physically entails, to begin much earlier than our culture demands. The human body kicks in to procreation stage easily by 14-16 (which is the age they married in biblical times) yet the normal person marries at 26-30. Well of course the God given desires of our bodies are going to be frustrated if there put in check for 10-15 years.
Maybe this should be in Men's, but, if we can keep it clean, I think it's edifying for women and youth to discuss this as well.
TDRevolver
[Edited on 20-1-2005 by tdowns007]