Would you think this was a date?

[NoahBBigley]

Well, I can tell you that on our first date my wife drove 6-1/2 hours to see me, and we were married 2 weeks later. So, be careful. We would have gotten married in the 1st week, but we didn't want to rush into things.

It's been 17-1/2 years now so I'm pretty sure it qualified as a date.

Good luck!

Thank you! Congratulations on 17-1/2 years!

How 20th Century of you. Get with the program. It needs to be live streamed for real time comments.

Hahaha! I will if the viewers consider prayerfully giving to cover the cost of the date...(driving this far should be considered a short term missions effort)

 

[augmentedfourth]

When I took my wife out for the first time, it really wasn't clear to either of us that it was a date. She says now that my clear declaration at the end that I'd like to take her out again is what made it a date. (Didn't hurt that we enjoyed each others' company enough that we spent 6 hours together before parting.)

 

[Edward]

my wife drove 6-1/2 hours to see m

Well, that's a little more than across DFW in the rain at rush hour.

 

[Santos]

Well, that's a little more than across DFW in the rain at rush hour.

Only slightly.

 

[Beoga]

When is this date happening? And will the Puritan Board stream the wedding?

 

[NoahBBigley]

Gentlemen,

I owe all your wise council an update! I have learned through prayer and the experience of driving four hours one way and another four back, that even though she is an amazing person, I don't have it in me for something this long distance lol. But good news, she did know it was a date!

 

[Edward]

The old term for that was G.U. - geographically undesirable.

 

[MyCrows]

Gentlemen,

I owe all your wise council an update! I have learned through prayer and the experience of driving four hours one way and another four back, that even though she is an amazing person, I don't have it in me for something this long distance lol. But good news, she did know it was a date!

Well, maybe next time she could drive

 

[Logan]

Phone calls work too. My wife and I only saw each other in person three or four times in the two years before we got married. If someone is worth pursuing, then they are worth pursuing long-distance.

 

[Santos]

Phone calls work too. My wife and I only saw each other in person three or four times in the two years before we got married. If someone is worth pursuing, then they are worth pursuing long-distance.

I would have to say that I agree with this. Technology makes the distance much more manageable with face time and all.

My son met a godly young lady from Florida at a Patrick Henry College leadership camp in Virginia last summer and they face time ever day. It would appear to be working just fine.

It also helps that you can get a round-trip flight from Houston to Tampa Bay for 80-100 bucks if you look at the right times.
I took him to see her once in October for his birthday and he is paying for his own way on the 31st. $98 round trip.

Of course, they won't be getting married anytime soon since they are both in high school.

But it sure beats using a prepaid phone card and a payphone like we did back in the day.

 

[NoahBBigley]

I would have to say that I agree with this. Technology makes the distance much more manageable with face time and all.

My son met a godly young lady from Florida at a Patrick Henry College leadership camp in Virginia last summer and they face time ever day. It would appear to be working just fine.

It also helps that you can get a round-trip flight from Houston to Tampa Bay for 80-100 bucks if you look at the right times.
I took him to see her once in October for his birthday and he is paying for his own way on the 31st. $98 round trip.

Of course, they won't be getting married anytime soon since they are both in high school.

But it sure beats using a prepaid phone card and a payphone like we did back in the day.

I couldn't agree! The blessing of technology is real.

However, after spending time in prayer, I can't help shaking the feeling as if the LORD wants me to spend my time stewarding what He has already given me. Right now our church just launched a contemprary service and college ministry program I oversee. Between the blessing of serving in that capacity, finishing my Master of Divinity full time, and working part time as a Marketing Director, I feel it may not be the right season of life to date!

But I could be wrong...I have been before lol!

 

[ZackF]

Was there ever another date?

 

[Charles Johnson]

Phone calls work too. My wife and I only saw each other in person three or four times in the two years before we got married. If someone is worth pursuing, then they are worth pursuing long-distance.

Same here.

 

[Ye_Olde_Heidelberger]

I feel it may not be the right season of life to date!

Brother, remember that you are beholden to the Lord's timing and preferences, not your own. You might not feel that now is the time, but then again, you will likely be saying the same thing years down the road -- life will continue to be just as busy! If you like this women, consider her to be godly, and have the means of staying in touch and building a relationship with her, let me urge you to at least reconsider. Imagine the many benefits of having her work alongside you and support you in your ministry and work life. A godly spouse will ease your load and make life easier, not be an additional burden.

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" - Gen. 2:18
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" - Prov. 18:22
"House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord" - Prov. 19:14

 

[NoahBBigley]

Brother, remember that you are beholden to the Lord's timing and preferences, not your own. You might not feel that now is the time, but then again, you will likely be saying the same thing years down the road -- life will continue to be just as busy! If you like this women, consider her to be godly, and have the means of staying in touch and building a relationship with her, let me urge you to at least reconsider. Imagine the many benefits of having her work alongside you and support you in your ministry and work life. A godly spouse will ease your load and make life easier, not be an additional burden.

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" - Gen. 2:18
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" - Prov. 18:22
"House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord" - Prov. 19:14

Thank you for the wisdom!

Was there ever another date?

No sir, didn’t plan another for the reason I shared above!

 

[Santos]

Brother, remember that you are beholden to the Lord's timing and preferences, not your own. You might not feel that now is the time, but then again, you will likely be saying the same thing years down the road -- life will continue to be just as busy! If you like this women, consider her to be godly, and have the means of staying in touch and building a relationship with her, let me urge you to at least reconsider. Imagine the many benefits of having her work alongside you and support you in your ministry and work life. A godly spouse will ease your load and make life easier, not be an additional burden.

"And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" - Gen. 2:18
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" - Prov. 18:22
"House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord" - Prov. 19:14

This is an excellent point!

The Lord used my wife to graciously bring about all of the good that is in my life. This is no exaggeration.

She encouraged me to stretch beyond what I thought I was capable of professionally. She gave me the confidence to believe that I could do things beyond what I thought I was within my ability, mechanically (long story). And she constantly encourages me to draw closer to the Lord and whole heartedly supports my leadership in our family.

You may be missing out on the single greatest factor in your overall success.

Just saying.

 

[Beoga]

I don't know how old you are, and you have explained some of what you have going on, so best advice would be to listen to your elders and other godly older men in your church.

There is always an excuse to not pursue someone or not ask them out.

Due to my own shyness (and probably a sinful addiction to p0rnography), I was 29 when I went on my real first date ever (with my now wife) and nearly 30 when I got married. In a lot of ways I wish I would have gotten married earlier and had children earlier (though I wouldn't have the wife and children I do now, and I am so thankful to God for such a blessing, made the years of singleness worth it). A godly woman is such a wonderful blessing. If you pursue this woman, and establish a godly home with her, you will not regret the things you put on pause now or didn't accomplish. If God has not called you to singleness, I would highly encourage you to reconsider, and pursue this godly woman. If you do, you will find that you will become a better man because of her.

Oh, and I hate driving. I hate commutes and long car rides. As others said, there is technology, and this would just be for a season, not for forever.

 

[ZackF]

Thank you for the wisdom!


No sir, didn’t plan another for the reason I shared above!

I saw that. I figured you might have changed your mind.