Thank you.In saying all these things, I am keenly aware of many men and women who want nothing more than to marry. Yet the Lord has not provided for this desire. While I feel for them, I’m not speaking to them. I’m speaking to those who have been told, “you shouldn’t marry until…” If marriage is a creation ordinance, and I believe it is, and if we are old enough to take part in it, I believe we should. Whatever weaknesses we see within ourselves, and whatever fears we may have from deviating from social norms, let us plead for the Spirit’s help.
Tim, I think you are correct. On the Continent, the average age was 2 or 3 years older than it was with our New England fathers. Not sure why that was exactly.I heartily agree. I think I would add that people should prepare themselves/mature themselves so that they are ready for marriage (although this was implicit in "old enough" to be married).
Some in the Reformation age married older. I think I recall seeing 26 as an average for men?
Well said.But.... look for a godly mate. If you can't find someone who will help you draw closer to God, and are instead looking at someone who might be a hinderance, don't settle for a mate who is weak in godliness just because you want to hurry and marry young.
As a general rule, though, the good ones go quickly. Another reason to go ahead and marry.
Mary and I have been married since 1973 (45 years) and are still madly in love with each other. Really! We were 21 years old at the time. I've said a hundred times or more that I wish we had married years earlier. Like maybe 17 or 18. In this often arid world, my marriage has been an oasis.Here is an article I wrote recently where I try and make an argument for marrying young.
Well for me (I married at 19), the Lord used my bride to bridle my lust (1 Cor. 7:9). Most thankfully! After 8 years this still rings true.Someone with this problem ought first to bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ, not seek to get married young as a solution.
None taken....my older look has always served me well in careers, church, and marriage. My wife was 23 when we got married. This is what I look like with no makeup, so I still think I clean up nicely:No offence, brother, but I imagined that you were in your 40s. The pipe must age you.