Anton Bruckner
Puritan Board Professor
Ok I am the only one in my family that has a car. I purchased my car primarily to pick up my son on the weekend and to go to church. (church is about 22 miles away from me).
Here is the dilemna I find myself.
1. My brother only has a part time job and most of the day he is home. He uses the car to go anywhere.
2. My brother drops my father to work and picks him up. This adds a total of 150 miles per week.
3. Since my brother is home most of the day (various family members call him to do errands like picking up their children from school etc). Of course he uses my car.
Now here is the dilemna. When I actually get to use the car on weekends. It is filthy and dirty. I told him early this week to clean it, and he didn't.
I told him point blank that if he cannot clean the car he should not be driving it, no matter what errand he is doing whether it is for his mother, father, or girlfriend. So far the car has been parked. No one uses it but me.
Here is the problem. My brother is a shrewd politician, and will spin this to my father as "Keon" not wanting him to get a ride to work. Today I told my brother don't use the car. As a result he had to use the van (employers van that he drives) to do his errands and to drop my Dad to work. I know my Dad will be pretty angry since he thinks I am being mean to him.
Now my question is, Am I wrong for prohibiting the use of my car in such a situation? I badly want to hold my ground on this, but I know the onslaught is going to come, and my name will be racked through the mud as being a meanie and a show off. But that's not it. All I want is the car to be cleaned. I would find water bottles, drink cans, newspapers, paper bags etc in the car.
Here is the dilemna I find myself.
1. My brother only has a part time job and most of the day he is home. He uses the car to go anywhere.
2. My brother drops my father to work and picks him up. This adds a total of 150 miles per week.
3. Since my brother is home most of the day (various family members call him to do errands like picking up their children from school etc). Of course he uses my car.
Now here is the dilemna. When I actually get to use the car on weekends. It is filthy and dirty. I told him early this week to clean it, and he didn't.
I told him point blank that if he cannot clean the car he should not be driving it, no matter what errand he is doing whether it is for his mother, father, or girlfriend. So far the car has been parked. No one uses it but me.
Here is the problem. My brother is a shrewd politician, and will spin this to my father as "Keon" not wanting him to get a ride to work. Today I told my brother don't use the car. As a result he had to use the van (employers van that he drives) to do his errands and to drop my Dad to work. I know my Dad will be pretty angry since he thinks I am being mean to him.
Now my question is, Am I wrong for prohibiting the use of my car in such a situation? I badly want to hold my ground on this, but I know the onslaught is going to come, and my name will be racked through the mud as being a meanie and a show off. But that's not it. All I want is the car to be cleaned. I would find water bottles, drink cans, newspapers, paper bags etc in the car.