twogunfighter
Puritan Board Freshman
Mary
I learned in the Army. However they don't teach that good and as you can tell by world events, russian is not as necessary as when I was taught, so I have fallen out of practice over the last several years.
Also:
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And let me ask you a serious question. Let's say that I have a feature I'm ashamed of, and I get that "fixed". Then I meet a great guy, who falls in love with me. We get married. Am I ever going to be really confident that he loves ME? Would he have loved me before the surgery?
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Whatever "me" that the guy falls for is the girl that he loves. He does not differentiate and somehow just fall for "inside person." There is in my opinion no platonic division such that "the real you" is your character, spirit, soul or whatever. It is all one whole. Neither should be over-emphasized. If one is fat it is probably because one is lazy. If one is built like a runner it is in most cases because he runs alot which probably implies industriousness at least in that area. If you sin physically, you sin; if you sin mentally, you sin. If you are outwardly attractive and have the mental capacity of Anna Nicole Smith then, to me at least, you will be unattractive. On the other hand if you are great theologian and look like Ellen Degeneres then I will find you equally unattractive.
One other thing, what if a hypothetical woman did not get that unsightly blemish fixed and met a guy who really loved everything about her but her nose for instance. Would she really want that guy thinking "well, even though I really like her as person and she is really smart and would make a great mom etc; I am just going to close my eyes when we kiss because I can't stand that heinous nose?"
Chuck
I learned in the Army. However they don't teach that good and as you can tell by world events, russian is not as necessary as when I was taught, so I have fallen out of practice over the last several years.
Also:
[quote:d38aad5d56]
And let me ask you a serious question. Let's say that I have a feature I'm ashamed of, and I get that "fixed". Then I meet a great guy, who falls in love with me. We get married. Am I ever going to be really confident that he loves ME? Would he have loved me before the surgery?
[/quote:d38aad5d56]
Whatever "me" that the guy falls for is the girl that he loves. He does not differentiate and somehow just fall for "inside person." There is in my opinion no platonic division such that "the real you" is your character, spirit, soul or whatever. It is all one whole. Neither should be over-emphasized. If one is fat it is probably because one is lazy. If one is built like a runner it is in most cases because he runs alot which probably implies industriousness at least in that area. If you sin physically, you sin; if you sin mentally, you sin. If you are outwardly attractive and have the mental capacity of Anna Nicole Smith then, to me at least, you will be unattractive. On the other hand if you are great theologian and look like Ellen Degeneres then I will find you equally unattractive.
One other thing, what if a hypothetical woman did not get that unsightly blemish fixed and met a guy who really loved everything about her but her nose for instance. Would she really want that guy thinking "well, even though I really like her as person and she is really smart and would make a great mom etc; I am just going to close my eyes when we kiss because I can't stand that heinous nose?"
Chuck