Winsomeness should work both ways,
too.
There is no category of theology that I have found wherein both sides of a particular angle didn't have one of "those guys" who beats the dead horse, rarely seeks to uphold a charitable esteem, so on and so forth. I think we are all idolaters, BTW, Psalm-singers (only) or not. We'll never rise to the level of perfection that God requires in our approach unto Him. We all need the mediation of Christ in our worship. If it's not the manner in which we draw night unto God, it may be the matter. If not the matter, it may be the motive. We'll never get every aspect of any act of obedience completely right. Manner, matter, motive, thoughts, words, deed, personally, perfectly, perpetually. There is only One who fulfilled that perfectly, and it is His perfect obedience we need. This is no excuse not to
endeavor toward perfection in all our duties, but an acknowledgment that we will not reach that this side of glory.
Psalm-singers (only) ought not surmise evil of the motivations of pious brothers and sisters who are inclusive of hymns in the singing, and yet, hymn-singers ought not surmise evil of the motivations of the questions and gentle assertions of the wrongness of hymn-singing in the worship of God. Accusations of
willful disobedience to the Regulative Principle by Psalm-singers (only) against hymn-singers is certainly not a charitable esteem. Meanwhile, painting all Psalm-singers (only) of being blood-thirsty heretic-hunters which think wickedly of all hymn-singing brethren will not be helpful (I am not saying that has happened in this thread, but I have seen it elsewhere in the past). Yet, does this mean a Psalm-singer (only) may not call what he perceives biblically to be a breach in the correct application of the Regulative Principle
sin? This can be done charitably, and if we really believe what we believe, this ought not be thought to be insensitive.
Presbyterians' own confession calls the neglect or contemning of the ordinance of baptism a great sin, yet this does not stop charitable discussion even within the soteriological Reformed context. One would hope that Baptists -in being consistent with their beliefs- assert that the baptism of infants also to be a sin and a breach of its rightful administration, according to their understanding. I would not be offended by this. Likewise, for the brother who believes hymn-singing to be in according with the RPW, with such passages as Eph. 5 and Colossians 3, I am not offended if they think that exclusion of hymns from worship to be a sin. It is not beyond the realm of conversation, and it is far better to discuss these things with brotherly care, than to leave them alone as the Elephant in the Room, even if we do not come to agreement.
The Lesson: Let us acknowledge our imperfection in worship, regardless of where we fall, but allow one another the right to call a position wrong, if buttressed by Scriptural arguments and our respective Confessions. Though I am convinced that the Confession is clear on Psalm-singing in worship, that does not mean the same is clear to everyone, and we'll never come to agreement if we do not at least agree to come together charitably and discuss the matter, especially in a larger ecclesiastical setting (Presbytery, GAs, Synods, etc.). Our whole carriage in this affair might drastically be changed if it was always carried out with a desire for our brethren's souls, instead of to win an argument. I know I have certainly have had my share of breaches in this regard. Lord have mercy.
Let us keep in mind that jewel from Mr. Sibbes (
Works, Vol. I, p.52):
It were a good strife amongst Christians, one to labour to give no offence, and the other to labour to take none.