Don,
This is key to remember (even Deiter alluded to this):
[bible]Deuteronomy 29:29[/bible]
Whether we're Baptists or Presbyterians this is true. It can be sinful to speculate on what God has not revealed to us.
Chapter III, Section 8 of the WCF and Chapter III, Section 7 of the LBCF state the exact same thing:
8. The doctrine of this high mystery of predestination is to be handled with special prudence and care, that men attending to the will of God revealed in his Word, and yielding obedience thereunto, may, from the certainty of their effectual vocation, be assured of their eternal election. So shall this doctrine afford matter of praise, reverence, and admiration of God; and of humility, diligence, and abundant consolation to all that sincerely obey the gospel.
I believe there is a tendency to do precisely the opposite and use the doctrine of salvation and election with very little care. You keep missing the careful nuance here.
This is important for you to remember (or understand for the first time): God has NOT revealed to us who is actually elect and actually saved. Fix that first as a point of reference and let that sink in.
We act toward others in our Church on the basis of what He
has revealed.
You don't baptize men and women on the basis of election or knowledge of their salvation, you baptize men and women on the basis of their profession. You don't discipline men and women on the basis that you know they are reprobate or not saved, you discipline on the basis of their fruit. There could be a correspondence but you simply do not know.
I kept giving you as an example of your own Pastor, a man in good standing in your Church. It is speculation for you to doubt Gene's election and salvation. The Scriptures do not permit you to do so. Why? BECAUSE YOU'RE NOT GOD. Beyond that, he's not in gross sin at all (which is why I used him as a specific example and not some hypothetical "backslider").
Now, what you keep hearing is this: "I'm never allowed to be concerned about the fruit or profession of my brother or sister no matter the circumstance." You can't seem to grasp that "not speculating" is not the same as a command to "not discern" - they're two different categories with one belonging to hidden decree and the other to things revealed. This is why I'm telling you that your understanding lacks nuance. You're making unwarranted leaps from one category to another.
Consider what I'm saying again:
1. In one case, if a person in your Church has never done anything to lead you to believe they are denying the faith and are in good standing with the Church, then
who are you to cast a wary eye toward any brother and question the heart that you cannot see? You are not leaving the hidden things to God. If that brother or sister dies in good standing, you ought not doubt their election or salvation and express such speculation. Why? You're not leaving the hidden things to God. Probabilities and guesses are quite immaterial. You don't have any business speculating on the eternal decree of God by doubting the election and salvation of somebody who died in your Church.
2. Not that this is germane to the situation at hand but let me deal with the brother who is under Church discipline and dies. You might be concerned for such a person. You may even have reason to doubt the
profession of that brother based on circumstances. Do you have a right, however, to
speculate on the election and salvation of one under discipline? No, you do not. The hidden things
still belong to God.
3. You also seem to assume that the command not to doubt the election and salvation of another (because we're not God) equates to no responsibility or concern for them. Wrong. I don't know how many times I've upbraided Calvinists here for saying that people in Arminian churches are not Christians. Why? For the same reason I'm warning you - the secret thing belong to God. Now, do I think that I can rest easy based on what I know they're learning? Absolutely not but one only assumes that follows if they miss the nuance. I labor among brethren in my current Church who
might be unregenerate but I
don't play duck, duck, goose and say in my heart: "that man is not regenerate." Rather, I teach them and enjoin them according to the Word and let the Holy Spirit work through the Word. Once they're in the Church, and in good standing, it's not my right to treat them any differently.
Looking at this from another direction, we ought never dogmatically conclude that a person is elect and saved. You believe that being warned not to doubt a person's election and salvation is equivalent to being dogmatically told: all children are elect and saved. This understanding is simply incorrect and you need to reflect more on the difference in the statements here. There is a judgment of charity going on in this teaching that you don't seem to appreciate. You want to turn this into a logic gate and it's more complex than your representation.
Thus, what this really boils down to, as I said from the beginning, is that you don't believe that infant children are in Covenant with God on the basis of their solidarity with their parents. Because you reject that premise (which is obvious since you're a Baptist) you don't seem to understand that the teaching in dispute logically follows once one accepts the premises of their membership. Why?
Because it's true for all who are in good standing in the Church. The Scriptures declare they are holy by birth to Christian parents and they haven't done a thing to be excommunicated. The same would be the case for any severely retarded person who grew up in the Church that lived, grew up in the Church, and died without capacity to ever express audible faith. To doubt their election and salvation is to speculate on things not revealed and Dordt is simply echoing the sentiment, throughout Scripture, that we believe on the basis of the things revealed.
That's what faith is all about.