I think the "list" in 1 Tim 5 is a special list of widows who are entitled to full time support by the church. It is for godly women who have lived lives full of good works (1 Tim 5:10) to have a "retirement"- to use a modern word- from having to worry about finances.
So the list in 1 Tim 5 is a kind of special support for a particular class of widows. But I don't think it disqualifies extraordinary help for a 50 yr old who is placed in bad situation by providence.