Outside of the discussions inside the various Systematic Theologies are there any stand-alone books that discuss the issues surrounding both as well as arguments pro/con?
Yes. J.V Fesko has a book entitled "Diversity within the reformed tradition: Supra and infralapsarianism in Calvin, Dort, and Westminster" published by Reformed Academic Press and available for purchase here
There is some discussion of it in The Reformed Doctrine of Predestination by Boettner, but if I remember correctly, it doesn't really lay both sides out in great detail. I think he mostly just argues for Infralapsarianism.