blhowes
Puritan Board Professor
If you're married now, have you ever been in a situation where it was almost expected that you'd go out to dinner with a member of the opposite sex? Just wondering how you reacted and, if you didn't go out, how you explained it.
Here's why I ask. Last week I was on a business trip with two of my managers, one of whom is a lady. The three of us went out to dinner the first night - no problem. On the second day, the male manager had a fire he had to put out back at the office, so he was asked to fly back home immediately. That left me and the lady manager. On the next two evenings after finishing work, she asked if/where I'd like to go for dinner. I opted not to go, but went to the grocery store to get something so I could eat in the hotel room.
This afternoon, I went in for my annual review with the male manager. After we finished, he said he wanted to ask me a question, and it was fine if I didn't answer. Apparrently, the lady manager was curious why I didn't want to go out. The male manager is the same manager I had at my previous company, and asked if it was for the same reasons I wouldn't at the old company. I told him it was.
He didn't pursue it any further, but if he did (or if the lady manager asked me), I'm not sure how I'd go about explaining it. Have you ever been in a similar situation and had to explain yourself?
Do you think I was wrong not going out?
Here's why I ask. Last week I was on a business trip with two of my managers, one of whom is a lady. The three of us went out to dinner the first night - no problem. On the second day, the male manager had a fire he had to put out back at the office, so he was asked to fly back home immediately. That left me and the lady manager. On the next two evenings after finishing work, she asked if/where I'd like to go for dinner. I opted not to go, but went to the grocery store to get something so I could eat in the hotel room.
This afternoon, I went in for my annual review with the male manager. After we finished, he said he wanted to ask me a question, and it was fine if I didn't answer. Apparrently, the lady manager was curious why I didn't want to go out. The male manager is the same manager I had at my previous company, and asked if it was for the same reasons I wouldn't at the old company. I told him it was.
He didn't pursue it any further, but if he did (or if the lady manager asked me), I'm not sure how I'd go about explaining it. Have you ever been in a similar situation and had to explain yourself?
Do you think I was wrong not going out?