Another difficult aspect to this discussion is just how unwilling most women are to be honest about their desire to make men view them sexually.
They want to play both ends: have total deniability and plausible innocence, excusing and projecting their attitudes onto the men, meanwhile enjoying their power over a man's mind or gaze.
Women do not enjoy being catcalled by the 80% of men they consider below average or not prospects. You'll find most of them alter their behavior and desires considerably if you're talking about the other 20%.
I'm sorry, but I really think your interpretations of the way most woman think are way off the mark. Women often do want men to view them sexually, but it is rarely for the reasons you assert. Now some women are manipulative, and all are tempted so sexual sin on some level, but you can't use that to say they are all manipulative. Some men touch woman inappropriately, and all men are tempted to sexual sin on some level, but all men do not therefore touch women inappropriately.
And I agree that many women think that they do not need to worry about causing men to sin by how they dress, but is that really the case for all Christian women as well? And is women fighting against men who catcall or sexually assault them really just a smoke-screen so that they can continue to manipulate us?
Such generalisation is not helpful in these sorts of topics, this is not a battle between men and woman, it is a battle against sin. Please show women, especially our sisters in Christ, more charity and try not to tar them all with the same brush.
From what I've seen and read, the majority of woman want one thing from a relationship, love and affection (I'll argue the same for young men in a moment). Particularly in our self-esteem-focused, image-obsessed culture, they want to feel valued. I really don't think we as men fully grasp the pressure that is being increasingly put on young women, or even young girls, to be beautiful and appealing and loved.
And so, out of desire to obtain that from men, they may act in certain ways. They may dress immodestly, flirt with men, you get the idea.
Now some woman do this in a sort of risk/reward sort of way. They don't actually want to do this, but they have been taught its the only way to get a man's attention. So they try it, hoping to find a guy who actually cares about them for who they are, and is not just after sex. Needless to say, they are often disappointed. They constantly hope for a man who loves them, and only find men who lust after them. Thus they think "Men only want sex".
Other women on the other hand, who feel unloved and unwanted (possibly due to bullying or other abuse), might want men to lust after them in order to feel any self-validation whatsoever.
And this of course is all mixed with their sinful desires.
Now this brings up many questions in the minds of us men, who think very differently and thus have a whole set of our own problems. "Why does she say she doesn't like me when she was acting so interested?" "Why do they get so offended at being catcalled if they chose to dress like that?" "Woman get so much attention from men, why are they so picky?" "Are they just using sex to manipulate us?"
I was very troubled at the way you used the data from that graph. Many men make the same mistake you make about woman, though they often have far worse intentions. I'll demonstrate the thought process:
1. That woman was dressed in a immodest manner.
2. She must therefore want something from guys
3. When I (catcalled/flirted with her/talked to her/asked her out/touched her) she wasn't interested
4. Women always and only want sex
5. I am not handsome/rich/succesful/confident enough
6. She must only like handsome/rich/succesful/confident guys (catcalling/flirting with her/talkingto her/asking her out/ touching her)
7. She was just manipulating me for attention
8. All woman use their sexuality to manipulate men
This sort of attitude is even used to excuse horrible behaiviour like catcalling or assualt with "She really did want that sort of thing, it was just cause I am unattractive/poor/short".
This is really important. It's true that many woman are wrong when they want to "dress any way they want" or to have the freedom to be sexually promiscuous, however this does not mean that they are wrong to object to the horrible ways in which men treat women.
The problem is you are projecting the way men think onto the way women think. Men also start with a desire for love and companionship, which is likewise twisted.
However, for men the situation is very different. If I am outside near a nightclub or bar at night I am relatively safe. If a woman walks past me on a dark street, I don't even give it a second thought. The reverse is not true of my female friends. On average, men are far stronger than woman, and I would think more likely to defend themselves. Men, especially strangers, are scary. Woman have far more reason to try and make it known that they are not interested at all, and far more reason to be more picky about who they go out with. The consequences for them are far greater.
Most women aren't trying to manipulate men, they are trying to find self-validation/love, are using sinful methods to obtain it, and trying to avoid all the men who take advantage of that.
So we have this mess:
Women are told that all men want is sex, and that in order to attract them they must act/dress immodestly.
Men are taught to view women as sexual objects, and are told that they are all trying to manipulate men with sex, and that actually all they want is sex too, but they only like handsome/rich/confident men, so you have to manipulate them back to get it from them.
Now obviously we as Christians must deny the practices of acting/dressing immodestly, of lusting, of catcalling, of engaging in sexual actions/thoughts outwith marriage, and of manipulating others for our own gain.
But we must also deny the presuppositions that the world tries to force upon us. We must deny that the primary desire of all humanity is for sexual intercourse. We must deny that all men want from women is sex, and all that women want from men is sex. Us men cannot view woman all as evil temptresses here to lead us astray, and woman cannot view us men all as sexual predators who could strike at any moment.
I find that what you have posted accepts wholesale the world's reductive view of women, but also its reductive view of men. All people are sinful, yes, but we cannot reduce all the sins, problems and interactions between men and women to simply "all men/women want is sex". That is utterly false.
