Perhaps I have been misunderstood. If a man is lacking one or more of these qualities then he cannot be "above reproach" and is therefore disqualified from the position!
Now then, that does not mean that the man has to be married and have children. These requirements apply in that he must be pure and have his house in order, whether he is single, married without kids, or married with kids.
He must meet the qualifications, but we have to be sure we understand what the qualifications actually mean!
And Fred is correct, that these are really the requirements for all believers - but especially our elders as they lead us and shepherd us in the faith.
Phillip
[quote:28ccee6fd4]taken from [i:28ccee6fd4]The Role and Duties of Pastors[/i:28ccee6fd4] by Phillip M. Way
[b:28ccee6fd4]Scriptural Qualifications for Elders[/b:28ccee6fd4] - 1 Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:5-9
1. Blameless - above reproach and disrepute
2. The husband of one wife - literally a "one-woman man." This does not refer to marital status, but to purity.
3. Temperate - vigilant and serious minded
4. Sober-minded - self-controlled, curbing one's own desires and impulses
5. Of Good Behavior - well arranged, seemly
6. Hospitable - "lover of strangers", generous
7. Able to Teach - a skillful teacher
8. Not Given to Wine - One who does not abuse or become addicted to wine
9. Not Violent - not a "bruiser" or given to fights
10. Not Greedy for Money - Generous, not controlled by a desire for money
11. Gentle - reasonable, fair
12. Not Quarrelsome - not contentious or looking for trouble
13. Not Covetous - not controlled by desire for possessions
14. One Who Rules His Own House and Children Well - Manages his family rightly, either as a single man, or as a husband and father. If he is married he must have a submissive and godly wife. If they have children they must be obedient children. (He must be a good husband and parent!)
15. Not a Novice - not a new convert, mature in the faith
16. Having a Good Testimony among Those Outside - an upstanding reputation even to those outside of the church
17. Not Self-willed - not self pleasing or arrogant
18. Not Quick Tempered - not prone to get angry quickly, not hot headed
19. A Lover of What is Good - loving and desiring what is good and right
20. Just - upright
21. Holy - devout, pleasing to God
22. Self-controlled - disciplined
23. Holding Fast the Faithful Word - Believing and being convinced of the truth of God's Word and offering the truth to others.[/quote:28ccee6fd4]
[Edited on 3-30-04 by pastorway]