Had an "awkward" moment at Starbuck's last night....

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Constantlyreforming

Constantlyreforming

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So, yesterday I was at Starbucks reading after work. A woman came in in her mid to late 30s, a guy who was maybe late 20s, and a young girl who was maybe 11 or 12. After they spent 5-10 minutes standing around in from of me they sat down. I had my headphones on. Well, 20 minutes later, after several times of my looking up with all three of them looking my way, they walked by me and left. 5 minutes later the woman walks in just as I am getting ready to leave. She asks me if I saw the guy who was with her. I said yes, and she then asks me for my number to give to him, if I am interested. Now, the guy did resemble Tom Cruise a bit, but I still told her, "um, no thanks, I am married and my wife would be really confused and disappointed in me if if I did that". I really didn't know what to say, so I had to mix in a bit of humor.

She then walked out the door, and got in the car with the other two, and left. Left me confused and alone.

This is the third time I have been either directly or indirectly asked for my number by a man. Not once for a woman. I have been married for almost ten years. Be honest. Do I scream "looking for gay partner"? What makes someone do something like this? Especially using a "wing-woman"?
 
Constantlyreforming said:
This is the third time I have been either directly or indirectly asked for my number by a man. Not once for a woman. I have been married for almost ten years. Be honest. Do I scream "looking for gay partner"?
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Three times??? That's certainly not normal.

I don't know anything about you. Perhaps it's a compliment to your fashion and grooming habits???
 
Starbucks. That's what it is. . . . Isn't there an implement dealer anywhere around you? They usually have free coffee.

;)

(No offense to Starbucks patrons--I used to have a one vente a day habit when I started working in Seattle).
 
It is awkward, as a hetero guy, when one is propositioned by a man. I've known many people who fulfilled their gender stereotype but engaged in homosexual activity.

If this helps ease your mind, I know of a really attractive woman who says she is propositioned more by women than by men. There are also 'established' spots where homosexuals prefer to meet. Perhaps your Starbucks is one?

I was traveling alone and was approached by a guy at a rest stop many years ago. It was later that I found out that particular rest stop was a 'hot spot' for homosexual men to meet. Being alone and at that spot generated the proposition. Apparently wedding rings are not a deterrent.
 
In college I had to switch from Ornamental Horticulture to Agriculture. Then it stopped mostly.
 
Ethan : If your avatar picture is any indication, then I'm just not seeing it. :)

Vic : Coffee at an implement dealer -- isn't that the same thing as paint stripper?

All : I'm esp. shocked by the presence of a child in this story.

I don't think many of us [blessedly] have the glimmer of an idea as to just how utterly depraved our common culture is now.

Humble yourselves, seek the Lord Himself, and turn from your own wicked ways. Pray for reformation and revival; pray as if your very life depends on it, for it does.
 
The wedding ring (if you have one) may be a good thing to be showing around when this happens the fourth time...

Also, you could have simply responded with, "Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God..." + Gospel
 
Romans922 said:
The wedding ring (if you have one) may be a good thing to be showing around when this happens the fourth time...
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Not really. Wedding rings mean very little in some locations.

And Wayne, yes, I'm appalled too, but, unfortunately, not at all surprised. As for the culture, oddly, in some ways I see it as being somewhat tempered compared to the late 70s and early 80s. In those pre-AIDS days, at least in the music world, things were pretty openly predatory. I was a farm kid with a sensitive soul when I entered college. I had professors hitting on me. They obviously thought that if I liked beauty and music, I must be one of them. It took fairly strong direct confrontation with strict self-restraint to hold them off non-violently. Eventually they gave up, but it really angered me at how they acted like hormone-driven sharks instead of men.

The sad thing is that, while predatory aspect seems to have receded some, the general acceptance of this sin is now almost complete.
 
Remove that red, yellow, or black bandana hanging out from your back pocket and things will settle down, brother. ;)

You'll have to Google that aspect. ;)

AMR
 
I was drinking a cherry soda.

I had my wedding ring VERY visible, on my left ring finger, holding the book by the reformed theologian...


maybe it was a test?
I seriously did look for a hidden camera....
 
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