Had an "awkward" moment at Starbuck's last night....

[yoyoceramic]

I think the same thing happened to Polycarp. Eusebius recounts the story:

And Polycarp, unwavering in his devotion to his Redeemer and Lord Jesus, steadfastly finished the last drip of of Vente machiato before thoughtfully answering the gentleman. caller's query: Eighty and six years have I served Him, and he never did me any injury; how then can I blaspheme my King and my Savior?

 

[Marrow Man]

 

[Pergamum]

They walked too near your headphones and heard 'it's raining men' on repeat as your song selection...

 

[Pilgrim]

If that indeed is a "spot," I wonder what would happen if some Christians started holding Bible studies there.

 

[Marrow Man]

What makes this story somewhat uncomfortable is that I went to a local Starbucks to read a couple of days ago, and a guy came in and set at a table near me. Then he decided to move to the chair next to mine. He kept staring at me. There were a couple of times I thought he was going to say something to me, but he didn't. I just kept reading. Probably just wanted to talk about the weather or something, but after reading this thread, I'm starting to wonder...

If that indeed is a "spot," I wonder what would happen if some Christians started holding Bible studies there.

Chris

Not at Starbucks because the coffee is awful (burnt dirt I like to call it, although the frappes are ok), but tomorrow morning we will hold our men's group study of Thomas Watson's The Godly Man's Picture at a local Panera Bread. Anyone in the Louisville area is invited!

 

[kvanlaan]

Only had that happen to me once (that I know about) in a restaurant common to folks of all persuasions (I say 'all' because I have no idea how many persusions there are any more) and I was in high school. Long time (many pounds) ago. I also now tend to go places with my stunningly beautiful wife which dispels all question of my orientation.

I think there are indeed 'spots' and that you may have hit one. Perhaps you should neglect your grooming to a greater extent? Stop with the pinky thing, no more sashaying into the room, and leave the pink feather boas at home. Just guessing here...

Next time this happens, look over and raise your eyebrows a little. It would at least start a conversation!

Tim, perhaps you're far too fetching for your own good.

 

[sdesocio]

Thats what happens when you are singing along to Dancing Queen.

 

[Weston Stoler]

Well I have been hit on by atleast 3 guys. 2 at books-a-million Once I was reading this bible and I told the man I was a christian and he said "Well I am a youth pastor at dadada" and I really looked scared for those kids.

Even in the conservative south this is not something uncommon. I wouldnt worry.
Athough my unusually Non-masculine voice kind of throws the homo off

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I actually keep my hair and beard ungroomed for this very reason.

 

[bookslover]

Maybe he wasn't gay. Maybe the man AND the woman were looking at you for a threesome. Stranger things have happened.

 

["William The Baptist"]

Awkward is right.

Some great insight and questioning. You might want to invest in less tight pants, stop buying fruity drinks, and definitely stop flat-ironing your hair... er... beard? On a serious note, that is a great opportunity to share the Gospel.

It is amazing to me how morally bankrupt this day and age is. What's shocking to me is that there were times when it wasn't so bad... for this is "my" generation and all I have known, but still, I am repulsed by it none the less.

When I was in highschool... I got hit on a fair amount and got tired of attention and didn't want to date ANYONE (I thought highschool relationships were so dumb) and ended up cutting my hair super short (a feminine boy short), and figured most guys like longer hair and the being hit on would simmer down.... only to get hit on a few times by GIRLS -_- and still guys, just more hipster guys.

Needless to say, I think I am just more oblivious to attention now than back then. But I'm a terrible judge of these things and default to my happy little oblivion.

 

[AThornquist]

I don't drink Starbucks, so maybe that's why I haven't had to dodge the gay train before. Of course, one time when I was witnessing to a homeless man he suddenly and obscenely suggested that something happen, and I went straight back to the Gospel; there was nothing else for me to say to him.

By the way, I forget who even made this thread, but when you pucker your lips there is a distinct heart shape made by your facial hair. You weren't making that face to the the three who walked in, were you?

 

[Marrow Man]

Tim, perhaps you're far too fetching for your own good.

Fetching is not the word I would use for myself. Only The Missus thinks that, I'm sure.

Maybe he wasn't gay. Maybe the man AND the woman were looking at you for a threesome. Stranger things have happened.

This is what I was thinking when I read the OP. The whole thing is just weird. The woman runs interference after bringing in the kid? And Starbucks is an "alternative lifestyles" pick up spot? I guess folks weren't going there for the coffee...

 

[Rufus]

I was drinking a cherry soda.

From a can? Using a straw?

Do you point your pinky outward when you pick up your drink?

[video=youtube;qggcmNFo5XQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qggcmNFo5XQ[/video]

 

[Constantlyreforming]

wow. I am both honored and a bit weirded out this is now in the top 5 threads now.

The insight you have all brought to the situation is quite impressive.
the threesome thing is a whole new ballgame....now I am even more appalled at the thought.

:sigh:

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I don't drink Starbucks, so maybe that's why I haven't had to dodge the gay train before. Of course, one time when I was witnessing to a homeless man he suddenly and obscenely suggested that something happen, and I went straight back to the Gospel; there was nothing else for me to say to him.

By the way, I forget who even made this thread, but when you pucker your lips there is a distinct heart shape made by your facial hair. You weren't making that face to the the three who walked in, were you?

of course. this is the way I look at every person in my life.

 

[Stargazer65]

I'm surprised that an attempted gay hookup happened in a Starbuck's store. Now, if it was Peet's I would expect something like that. I wouldn't be caught dead with a cup of Peet's Coffe or Tea.

 

[Tim]

Let us remember this note of discretion:

Eph 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
Eph 5:12 For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.

Yes, it can be easy to think of what this person might have meant (I did too), but let's not go any further okay? No accusations, just a friendly reminder for no one in particular.

 

[Reformed Roman]

I actually think a good point was brought up. I guess he really could have not been gay. We don't really know. So it's actually not worth looking deeply into or speculating on. I think the main purpose of the thread is simply why do these weird things happen to you?

And none of us have an answer. Except for random, witty, humorous remarks.

 

[MarieP]

If it happens again, use it as an opportunity to share the gospel.

Maybe that's why it keeps happening to you, so you will be able to share the Gospel!

 

[awretchsavedbygrace]

If you do wear tight clothing, that might be it. I wear tight shirts often, and get some awkward stares. Either change your style of dress, or live with it.

 

[Andres]

Are you a big guy? If so that and the combo of the bald head is actually a specific type that gays are in to. I don't know how to explain this without getting into something that is way disgusting, but I'm being completely serious here. I know somone whose father left their mother for a man. The dad was big time into bodybuilding and kept his head shaved. It's a certain look that is essentially a fetish for gay men. Oh, and on that note...

 

[mhseal]

It is only by the grace of God that we are not in far creepier situations everyday.

Anecdotally speaking, several years ago when I was out visiting my girlfriend's (now wife) family, we went to visit her grandma on her lunch break. Instead of going out to eat, we went for coffee at Seattle's Best. It was there that I made the mistake of asking the two gents working the counter how many carbs were in my drink. They then proceeded to conjecture that I had a nice body, and didn't need to worry about the carbs. Thoroughly creeped out, I eeked that I did in fact need to worry about the carbs, as I'm a diabetic...

It was down town Portland, Oregon, so in retrospect I'm not that shocked; but at the time it made me feel quite uncomfortable.

 

[Constantlyreforming]

Are you a big guy? If so that and the combo of the bald head is actually a specific type that gays are in to. I don't know how to explain this without getting into something that is way disgusting, but I'm being completely serious here. I know somone whose father left their mother for a man. The dad was big time into bodybuilding and kept his head shaved. It's a certain look that is essentially a fetish for gay men. Oh, and on that note...

6', 225 lbs
don;t know if that's considered big, but my friends compare my look to Jason Statham.


So, I have to get rid of my button fly banana republic pants?

dangit.

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If it happens again, use it as an opportunity to share the gospel.

Maybe that's why it keeps happening to you, so you will be able to share the Gospel!

I'll just plan on it, so that I am not surprised next time...