While I wasn't there, nor was privy to what goes on in Elder meetings at Grace, doing a little bit of research on the issue brings up a good point by Cho, who seems was asked to go over the case. That is, it isn't necessarily the Elders fault that the children, in what looks like to be an isolated case from 2004, were being abused by their father. But it is the fault of the Elders that they took the side of the Father. Meaning, that just like Cho is saying, if they were in error, they should have shown repentance, asked for forgiveness, and modeled humility. Even if it were years later. For some reason they never have, and that is an issue. But again, I do not know the whole story, only the side of the people who seem to take issue with Grace.
On the issue regarding spousal reconciliation within the realm of counseling, I am not so easily swayed. Because I do believe we live in an era where people are trying to expand the definition of abuse to dislikes rather than detriments. And I don't think the Bible teaches that. I think God hates divorce, and that in any type of brink of separation, divorce should only be used as the last resort, and that all means of reconciliation should be exhausted before it comes to that. And it is a shame to see many that still hold to that belief, (as it appears to becoming more rare) be regarded in a slanderous manner.
As far as MacArthur's theology. Its not a big deal to me as nobody is going to be barred from glory for being a Pre-mill Dispensationalist. If the evidence of that position is what ones conscience considers true, that is the same thing that drives all convictions, for all positions, from all men. Even on this Board, though Confessional, there is a broad spectrum of opinions of different points, and I am sure each person is thoroughly convinced.
Lastly, I also have to look at some of the contemporary Pastoral giants who have associated themselves with MacArthur, knowing full well they have considered these things much deeper and more thorough than me. People like Baucham, Washer, Beeke, Sproul, Piper, DeYoung, S. Ferguson, M. Reeves, C. Trueman, I. Hamilton, Duncan, G. Thomas, etc. and the list can go on. This is why I am not so quick to make hasty judgements as an outsider reading miscellaneous articles and blog-posts. These men know the accusations, are most likely more privy to "insider" info than many of us, yet did not feel that whatever had transpired was a reason to disfellowship or denounce Grace's ministry. And to me, that means something.