Nicki, a few thoughts:
1. You might not get married. You still have Christ, the better Husband. And you might be "single." You are still a daughter of God, which is your true and better identity.
2. Where do you live? This board is one resource that might, possibly be able to help you connect. But all anyone can tell from your signature is that you're from somewhere in California, which isn't specific enough. Put your town in your signature, and someone might say, "I know a guy..."
3. Are widely are you willing to look? Will you consider men who may not be as staunchly Reformed as one finds in the RPCNA, but rather are more broadly Reformed? I would not want you to settle for a poor fit spiritually. But there are godly men in the broadly Reformed camp, and many more of them than you'll find in just the RPCNA. A singles group from a nearby PCA (or a church in that vein) might provide godly fellowship and introduce you to good friends, enlarging your circle while you still attend your current church. Your Christian friendships don't all have to be a perfect spiritual fit to be helpful, both as fellowship and good "networking."
4. It isn't "flirt to convert" if you meet a man who's a godly believer, who cares about you and is eager to grow in faith alongside you, but doesn't line up perfectly with all your convictions. Yes, it's easier when the two of you do line up. But a godly marriage will always be between two people who are growing together, and you may find a guy with whom you can grow even if initially you have a few differences. At least talk it out before you dismiss the guy.
5. If a fellow finds your godliness attractive, you may have a keeper.
