Puritan Sailor
Puritan Board Doctor
Under the Puritan view, may a husband and wife have sex on the Sabbath?
(and that's a serious question, as silly or awkward as it may sound)
Will Christ cease to be the husband of His bride in heaven?
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Under the Puritan view, may a husband and wife have sex on the Sabbath?
(and that's a serious question, as silly or awkward as it may sound)
In your previous post (which has been deleted) you specifically state that recreation on the Sabbath is not sin. If you are truly "just looking for clarification" then ask questions without promoting your unconfessional views.
I was responding to this:
If having sex on the Sabbath causes you to sin then refrain from it.
If I don't believe that sex on the Sabbath causes me to sin, and I don't think throwing a frisbee causes me to sin, am I wrong on both accounts?
To me, it just seems too rigid to say we have to abstain from anything and everything that takes even one iota of our focus away from God on the Sabbath.
1 Cor 10:31 Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.
You seem to have convinced yourself that watching football on Sunday is OK even though it hinders you from glorifying God. But the Bible says all things that hinder you from glorifying God are to be avoided.
I love NFL football (I mean, I LOVE NFL football). With my DVR I will record the three or four games I get during a given week and watch them at my leisure. I will make time to watch the Bears game on Sunday even though it's not live. I will not skip church to watch a game, nor will I skip Sunday evening service to watch the game; but I will watch the game.
At the expense of being flippant (please don't take it this way, but I'm going to be hyperbolic to make my point), suppose I want to have some family time on Sunday after worship engaged in a game of Monopoly. From what I am hearing from some folks (I am sure well-intended) is that this is not honoring to God on the Sabbath because our thoughts are not focused on Him. What I am having a hard time with, and please help me to understand, is how can having some quality time with my family not be honoring toward God? Is the idea that in advance preparation for the Sabbath I should get my family game-playing time done between Monday and Saturday?
how can having some quality time with my family not be honoring toward God?
You seem to have convinced yourself that watching football on Sunday is OK even though it hinders you from glorifying God. But the Bible says all things that hinder you from glorifying God are to be avoided.
Friend, I think this is an unwarranted leap. Where did I give even the slightest impression that I "have convinced [my]self that watching football on Sunday is OK even though it hinders you from glorifying God?" Are you privy to my inner dialogue?
Here is part of my original response to this thread:
I love NFL football (I mean, I LOVE NFL football). With my DVR I will record the three or four games I get during a given week and watch them at my leisure. I will make time to watch the Bears game on Sunday even though it's not live. I will not skip church to watch a game, nor will I skip Sunday evening service to watch the game; but I will watch the game.
I have never skipped going to church to watch a football game, and this was true even before I had the DVR. If (when) I watch football on Sunday, it's always worked around church activities on Sunday. Now if you want to critique my attitude when I watch football (particularly Bears games) that's a different point entirely; and I stand rebuked!
However, your comment is completely out of line and unsupported given what I have revealed on this board and in this thread.
To me, it just seems too rigid to say we have to abstain from anything and everything that takes even one iota of our focus away from God on the Sabbath;
KMK,
I think you're missing a key concept that Westminster Sabbatarians insist on. The nature of the day is such that things which are quite acceptable on other days are not acceptable on that day. We draw that from Isaiah 58. We're allowed to think our own thoughts, speak our own words and "go our own way" (i.e. non-sinful thoughts, words, and ways) on other days, but the Sabbath is special. God has hallowed it. He's made it different. He's made it for Himself.
It might sound as if someone said "Yes, sexual relations on the Sabbath is acceptable" then you might come right back and use that to justify all sorts of other things.
I think that is something for you and your wife to think about before God and an open bible. Conjugal relations are a special form of fellowship between you and your wife.
For clarification, I take exception to the Confession's statement of abstaining from recreation, so I don't personally think there's anything wrong with sex on the Sabbath. I'm just looking for clarification from those who strictly hold to the Confession in this regard.
To me, it just seems too rigid to say we have to abstain from anything and everything that takes even one iota of our focus away from God on the Sabbath;
I assumed you were including watching NFL football as one of the things that takes 'even one iota' of your focus away from God. If it is not, could you give us an example of what is.
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I think it would be even MORE distracting for me to make sure that every thought, word and deed was focused on the glory and majesty of God. In other words, I would be so focused on focusing my thoughts that I would fail to focus on God Himself (missing the forest for the trees).
To me, it just seems too rigid to say we have to abstain from anything and everything that takes even one iota of our focus away from God on the Sabbath;
I assumed you were including watching NFL football as one of the things that takes 'even one iota' of your focus away from God. If it is not, could you give us an example of what is.
So, again for the sake of argument, if I on the Sabbath am taking a walk with my wife and we talk about my daughter's school choir concert on Wednesday, then according to your view (or more precisely, the Puritan/Westminsterian view) of the Sabbath, I am guilty of breaking the Sabbath and as such I ought to confess and repent at the end of the day.
Since you presumably adhere to said view, do you confess and repent of your failure to devote every single thought, word and deed to the glory of God on the Sabbath at the end of the day? Are you specific in naming every single instance where your thoughts wandered from the majesty of God on Sunday? I just want to be clear that if people are preposing this view, are they being consistent?
Perhaps a more helpful approach that considering what NOT to do on the Sabbath, is what to do. Go to church. Morning and night.
I just recently finished teaching a few lessons about the Sabbath for the adult Sabbath School class at our church. One of the things we concluded was that, if we're really doing what we ought to on the Sabbath (secret, family, and public worship, godly fellowship and conversation, works of necessity and mercy), there's not really much time to engage in common labors or recreations. Even though I would, and did, argue that Isaiah 58:13 specifically inveighs against recreations on the Sabbath, it becomes a moot point if we actually focus on keeping the day holy to God in worshipping and serving Him the whole day (not just an hour or two at church), instead of focusing on what not to do.
Question 121: Why is the word Remember set in the beginning of the fourth commandment?
Answer: The word Remember is set in the beginning of the fourth commandment, partly, because of the great benefit of remembering it, we being thereby helped in our preparation to keep it, and, in keeping it, better to keep all the rest of the commandments, and to continue a thankful remembrance of the two great benefits of creation and redemption, which contain a short abridgment of religion; and partly, because we are very ready to forget it, for that there is less light of nature for it, and yet it restrains our natural liberty in things at other times lawful; that it comes but once in seven days, and many worldly businesses come between, and too often take off our minds from thinking of it, either to prepare for it, or to sanctify it;and that Satan with his instruments much labor to blot out the glory, and even the memory of it, to bring in all irreligion and impiety.
Perhaps a more helpful approach that considering what NOT to do on the Sabbath, is what to do. Go to church. Morning and night.
Westminster Confession of Faith
Chapter XXI
Of Religious Worship, and the Sabbath Day
VIII. This Sabbath is to be kept holy unto the Lord when men, after a due preparing of their hearts, and ordering of their common affairs beforehand, do not only observe an holy rest all the day from their own works, words, and thoughts about their wordly employments and recreations,[38] but also are taken up the whole time in the public and private exercises of His worship, and in the duties of necessity and mercy.[39]
May I ask a simple question?
Those of you advocating the strictest adherence to sabbath "rest" are saying you avoid everything and anything that you cannot do "to the glory of God"? On the surface that sounds like something one would obviously do. However, that being said, are there not many times we do not do things to God's glory simply due to lack of focus/perspective? Does that get easier on Sunday?
Perhaps a more helpful approach that considering what NOT to do on the Sabbath, is what to do. Go to church. Morning and night.
I would agree with this if Churches we're an all day and night affair. Instead most churches, even reformed, last 60-90 minutes and members get annoyed if the time ever extends over the schedule.
I'd LOVE a Church that opened late morning (say 10am) and there was worship, meals, fellowship, prayer, etc. ALL DAY LONG, say until at least 6pm. No such Church exists that I've even heard of, and I don't see one ever existing because I know of hardly ANY person that would attend such.
I'd LOVE a Church that opened late morning (say 10am) and there was worship, meals, fellowship, prayer, etc. ALL DAY LONG, say until at least 6pm. No such Church exists that I've even heard of, and I don't see one ever existing because I know of hardly ANY person that would attend such.