Donald1818
Puritan Board Freshman
Good Day all,
I am new to the Board so I just wanted to dip my toe in the water and talk about a severe problem that I have.
So I am single. Very single.
I have never seriously courted or dated a woman.
As are a lot of people out there, but alas I have found no solas (sp?) in my singleness.
I live in the baltimore area and for almost 20 years I have searched, prayed, begged people to not only help me find a theologically reformed church but one that has any kind of singles or single program in it.
I am currently attending one of the larger reformed churches that I know of in the area and on two separate occasions I have attempted to talk to the pastor and leadership about my difficulty and to be honest I dont think they have a clue, or even really care. As many churches today are still focused on the family, I can not find any place to serve, worship, or meet and mingle to find even one reformed female anywhere in Baltimore.
I used to attend a church in DC and membered there for 2 years and yes there were some singles there but serving and being served, participating and fellow shipping were next to impossible because of the travel, I also traveled further that that to find a place to belong and the simple logistics get in the way. Realistically anything further that is 30-40 miles away is not helpful.
I am not asking to be fixed up, but I really just simply do not understand my situation. As far as I know I am a pretty decent guy. But to tell you all the truth, I am starting to go a little bonkers sitting at home alone. Maybe even a lot bonkers.??
Every year or so I have 2-4 close friends drop off the radar and get married. Im supposed to be happy for them and I am in a way, but, I am not.
Perhaps I am not even really focused on marriage but cant I even have someone to go out with on a friday night?
I have more thoughts but lets see if this is enough to get some chatter going.
OH me and my single friends have been calling it the 15 year curse, cause there is not a single known christian female within 15 years either way of our age. This started when I was in my late teens, and I am newly 40.
Thanks for reading...
Don
I am new to the Board so I just wanted to dip my toe in the water and talk about a severe problem that I have.
So I am single. Very single.
I have never seriously courted or dated a woman.
As are a lot of people out there, but alas I have found no solas (sp?) in my singleness.
I live in the baltimore area and for almost 20 years I have searched, prayed, begged people to not only help me find a theologically reformed church but one that has any kind of singles or single program in it.
I am currently attending one of the larger reformed churches that I know of in the area and on two separate occasions I have attempted to talk to the pastor and leadership about my difficulty and to be honest I dont think they have a clue, or even really care. As many churches today are still focused on the family, I can not find any place to serve, worship, or meet and mingle to find even one reformed female anywhere in Baltimore.
I used to attend a church in DC and membered there for 2 years and yes there were some singles there but serving and being served, participating and fellow shipping were next to impossible because of the travel, I also traveled further that that to find a place to belong and the simple logistics get in the way. Realistically anything further that is 30-40 miles away is not helpful.
I am not asking to be fixed up, but I really just simply do not understand my situation. As far as I know I am a pretty decent guy. But to tell you all the truth, I am starting to go a little bonkers sitting at home alone. Maybe even a lot bonkers.??
Every year or so I have 2-4 close friends drop off the radar and get married. Im supposed to be happy for them and I am in a way, but, I am not.
Perhaps I am not even really focused on marriage but cant I even have someone to go out with on a friday night?
I have more thoughts but lets see if this is enough to get some chatter going.
OH me and my single friends have been calling it the 15 year curse, cause there is not a single known christian female within 15 years either way of our age. This started when I was in my late teens, and I am newly 40.
Thanks for reading...
Don